Monday, March 30, 2009

D.O.G. Guilt

Naturally, after we gave away D.O.G., I started seeing pictures of look-alike versions of him all over the place.

Like on the cover of Our Iowa magazine which our friend from church passed along to us recently.



And friend Cathy's blog. Her dog has slightly different coloring, but otherwise looks like he could be related.

Then there are the numerous photos we took of D.O.G's puppyhood, which I keep coming across on my hard drive. This from the first few moments we had D.O.G., and were introducing him to Raisin.





Those cute photos from back in the days when he was little and adorable and could do no wrong. (Why, why do I do this to myself?!)



Back when Raisin, puppyless dog that she was, took him in, put up with his whimpering those first couple of nights, and became a surrogate mother of sorts to him.



Back before he turned into the ungrateful cur that bit the hand that fed him.

When I start feeling guilty about this, wondering if we sent a wrong message to our kids about lifetime commitment to our pets, all I have to do is go outside and see Raisin living life to the fullest again without a care in the world, sleeping peacefully in the spring sunshine, the nipped patches of fur having finally grown back in, and think, "Nahhh....we did the right thing."

Besides, it's not like we dumped D.O.G. off in the desert or took him to the pound...we found him a very good home.

He is living large there. Moreso than he ever would have here.

In fact, he's downright spoiled.

Seriously, he's maybe two steps removed from Beverly Hills Chihuahua kind of spoiled.

He now gets premium dog food, all kinds of treats and dinner scraps, and gets to sleep indoors and climb around and sleep on the sofas and beds to his hearts content.

We're told he particularly enjoys rolling around on the sofas, as if to say, "Ahhh, see? This...this is the life I was born to lead."

What dog wouldn't relish that kind of royal treatment?

Clearly, he was meant to be an indoor dog. Something we simply couldn't give him here.

For a while there, we were careful not to bring up the topic of D.O.G. (Well, aside from the couple of times I accidentally slipped up and told Jericho, "Make sure you feed your dog(s).")

Then, for a couple of weeks there nothing was said about him.

At which point I happily deluded myself into thinking the kids had already forgotten about him.

That being out of sight meant that he was out of mind.

This might have gone on indefinitely, except that Judah took to calling his little stuffed toy puppy…you guessed it…"D.O.G.".

And wants to snuggle up with said toy puppy every night at bed time.

Now that in itself would have been doable. I could self-talk my way into believing that it was logical that little Judah named his toy puppy the only puppy name he knew, and would forget the real thing before too long.

That our explanations to the kids as to why he couldn't stay at our house and was happy where he was now had been sufficient to comfort their hearts in the matter.

And all this might have worked well for us...

...If only Jericho hadn't just asked to go visit D.O.G. over at his cousin's house this past week.

Oh, the guilt!

In fact, they almost talked us into a new Beagle puppy, too. Playing on mom and dad's sympathies, no doubt.

But we stuck to our guns.

For now.

Oh, but heaven help me those are sweet, adorable dogs.

I can sense that our resolve is slipping.

And whatever kind of dog we get this time around we're stuck with for good, because mama can't handle going through this kind of dog guilt again!

8 comments:

Cyndi said...

I can help you with that. Beagles howl and dig. Do you want lots of holes in you yard? Do you want your neighboors to have some peace and quiet?

(I am the same way. We decided to "visit" the shelter and came home with a dog)

Gretchen said...

Sadly, I don't exhibit even the good sense God gave a...well...dog, so I'm not much help. I know you didthe right thing for your family, Becky. It's just...well my husband calls us "the sanctuary". If there's a mammal within a 10 mile range of our home who needs a home, we usually nod our heads and take out our wallets. My husband has learned after nearly 19 years that arguing is futile. For I will pout & it could get ugly if I pull out the "big guns" of guilt & martyrdom. :). Oh, I'm a gem.

Sorry your kiddos miss D.O.G., but loving & missing are good life lessons, too.

You are a great mom, Becky.

Joy@WDDCH said...

You are a brave, brave soul for possibly getting another dog. I can't handle dogs, indoors or otherwise. That's why Beckett is spoiled rotten. Even now I can hear him playing with his cat toys and tearing through the house like a madcat. LOL!

I agree, beagles are noisy little things especially at night.

frumpgram said...

I vote in favor of letting Raisin live the life SHE knows is wonderful! You CAN get too much of a good thing. And puppies don't stay little and cute. They get big and leave poop in the yard and your kids step in it and track it in or wear it on their shoes into the car where everybody starts gagging and retching. I know this stuff. I've learned the hard way. Take it from me, no matter HOW doggone cute a puppy is, the ugly fact is that they get bigand about all they do is eat and poop and that is your reward for putting up with all the chewing and destruction they leave in their baby canine wake. I have two dogs. And i'm saying, stick with Raisin and I think you'll be happy. So will she!

The Daily Bee said...

Beagles are so cute! But I know how two dogs in the same yard can be. We had Tiffany for many years before we got another puppy, her name was Misty and she was a border collie/Lab. Let me tell you, she was adorable as a puppy, pink belly and all, but she was a pain for Tiffany. She'd nip her heels and steal things... goodness, that dog really was a bad choice. We ended up finding out she was retarded, poor thing. But she was given away to give Tiffany (and us and the neighrbors)some peace and quiet.

I'd keep Raisin an "only dog" for now. =) But beagles are so cute...

Suzanne said...

Take it from the woman who has THREE dogs AND a cat (long story) and has had many others before...the beagle thing, DON'T DO IT!! Run Away!!! LOL! My husband had a beagle when we got married and yes, she was adorable, but she also drove us crazy with digging to get out of the yard. We did everything we could to keep her in the yard. When she finally escaped one day and we couldn't find her, my husband was very sad. Personally, I sighed with (guilty) relief.

His Girl said...

I bet somewhere Rasin is blogging about this


ps:my beagle does not dig or howl.

Cheffie-Mom said...

Just keep reminding yourself D.O.G. has a wonderful home! Several months ago, someone left a puppy on the doorstep of our restaurant. She is now part of our family.